I heard about another case of a married faculty person having a sexual relationship with a student.
I can't get my head around it. It's like, if I ever met Bill Clinton, I'd want to ask, "Mr. Clinton, was it worth it? You didn't lose your job or anything, but your staffers had to put a whole lot of focus into things other than health care, international relations, women's rights, and so forth. Was it that much more special than if you'd just masturbated by yourself?"
I can't get beyond how unequal the power relationship is, and how unethical that makes it.
But I know the administrators are probably thinking:
1) X is my buddy; I'm sure there was no coercion.
2) I wish I could get some sweet young ass.
3) It's a one time thing; it won't happen again.
4) The student probably pursued X; it's the student's fault.
5) X needed to have sex with that student in order to be happy. How could I question X's happiness?
And my question: what to do? I'm not in the same department or anything, and the administration has very much given a silent nod to these in the past.
But I really do think it's highly unethical. If I'm wrong, then I hope someone will explain why. If I'm not wrong (about it being unethical), then we need to take it seriously, and not just avert our eyes because we can't be bothered or X is our buddy.
One possibility: we're supposed to talk about issues at our college meeting. This seems like an issue we should address.