tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post3146484379537659223..comments2024-03-15T01:11:32.832-07:00Comments on Bardiac: "People Change Towards You"Bardiachttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11846065504793800266noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-74169050332994338212014-12-16T10:17:38.873-08:002014-12-16T10:17:38.873-08:00Yes, getting more time to talk informally would be...Yes, getting more time to talk informally would be great, if we actually had more time, and weren't using the time to talk when we need it to grade and such.<br /><br />I ended up taking an easy dip and chips, and that was fine. I went long enough to eat and chat a bit, and then left to grade, but some folks hung out a while, mostly the emeriti and some who are retired but still teaching a course here and there.Bardiachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11846065504793800266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-12018127704375150532014-12-15T19:37:39.786-08:002014-12-15T19:37:39.786-08:00As a teacher, I would like to have more time to ta...As a teacher, I would like to have more time to talk informally with a lot of my colleagues. As a chair, I think it's good for the department if we get to. But since I'm still teaching 8/9ths of a full load, I hope I'm pretty sensitive to demands on people's time. We're planning to have a lunch out (from the department budget) after the English exam in January. <br /><br />I hear you on the male colleagues piggybacking on their spouses' contributions. Not just that the woman makes the food, but that they both partake of the potluck. That would bug me too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-32127981052830410112014-12-15T14:11:16.434-08:002014-12-15T14:11:16.434-08:00Whether at the university or, back in my previous ...Whether at the university or, back in my previous life, in the private sector, or even before that, in K-12 school, I never ever liked parties at work (or in class). If I'm at work, I want to work. If I'm not going to be working, why would I want to go to work?richardnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-40517881994757793512014-12-15T10:24:32.886-08:002014-12-15T10:24:32.886-08:00I second this. I never cook for pot lucks. I cook ...I second this. I never cook for pot lucks. I cook if I invite people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-23301823838568007342014-12-15T07:23:20.611-08:002014-12-15T07:23:20.611-08:00Bardiac, forget the food prep. Bring a bowl of fr...Bardiac, forget the food prep. Bring a bowl of fruit salad from the grocery store, or one of those prepackaged crudite trays, or a frozen lasagna. It's nice if the spouse or partner wants to cook and bring something, but seriously: you're the professor! Don't cook.<br /><br />Also, if the Chair wants to host an event at hir house and wants to cook for all of hir colleagues, then let hir. But the demand that 1) you socialize outside of work hours with your colleagues, and 2) that you help cater the event? Screw that. Invitations to potlucks are the most ungenerous kinds of entertainment ever. I think you and your colleagues need to think about what your goal is in holding this kind of event.Historiannhttp://historiann.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-33268558866267030312014-12-15T05:35:58.727-08:002014-12-15T05:35:58.727-08:00You're right about people changing when they g...You're right about people changing when they go into administration. My dean tries to act like he's facilty sometimes, but no one really trusts him like they do regular faculty. He's not someone you'd confide in, for instance. He's not a good administrator either -- completely impotent in the face of conflict, and a true pushover. It makes me want to be a dean to show him how it's done, but then, I worry about becoming alienated from faculty myself. <br /><br />There's been renewed interest in becoming socially closer in my department once we split our department. But you're right -- I don't want to come in to school when I don't have to. Sigh. There's got to be a better way. Fie upon this quiet life!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12047096700049201873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-23339849656458580112014-12-14T14:04:14.395-08:002014-12-14T14:04:14.395-08:00Just because I've got to give my husband (who ...Just because I've got to give my husband (who is in my division) props: He does at least 90% of the cooking in our household. And the 30-year-old woman who joined our division last year has a chef for a boyfriend; her potluck dishes come entirely from him (whether or not he attends the events. She brags that she can cook cold cereal and toast). I realize that they're the exceptions, but at least a couple of exceptions exist!heu mihihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08529298049179816825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-32302989694152669242014-12-14T12:50:22.033-08:002014-12-14T12:50:22.033-08:00I guess at least the married men are trying to giv...I guess at least the married men are trying to give credit where it's due, though it comes across as one of those I-don't-realize-my-privilege maneuvers. But I agree with you about forced on-campus social life.Dame Eleanor Hullhttp://dameeleanorhull.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com