tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post1489401575069937835..comments2024-03-15T01:11:32.832-07:00Comments on Bardiac: Connected, but not in Obvious WaysBardiachttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11846065504793800266noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-4356805767478246232010-08-30T00:42:49.422-07:002010-08-30T00:42:49.422-07:00This is such a true post. Nowhere I've been ha...This is such a true post. Nowhere I've been has such distant families as the US. For better or for worse.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15606922510495018342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-13208881725260003042010-08-29T19:52:51.994-07:002010-08-29T19:52:51.994-07:00I'm about 2100 miles away from my hometown. La...I'm about 2100 miles away from my hometown. Last year, when my dad died, all I knew was that he'd collapsed and that he was taken to the hospital. I waited by the phone for hours for news. No one ever called me. I called the hospital, and they transferred me around until finally I got a hold of my cousin, who told me he was dead. I was so shocked. And even worse was that no one even thought to call me -- he'd been dead for over an hour. It was awful. That experience made me sort of want to be closer to the fam for when my mom gets older, but at the same time, I also know that I get along with my family better when I'm not in their sphere of influence. Weird, eh? We just have very different values. <br /><br />Anyway. My hubby is also a much more involved dad than his dad was. He changes diapers, cleans, cooks, gives baths, reads stories, etc. He's also an emotional guy - cries and all. No macho men here. My two sons are lucky, I think, to have a male role model who doesn't buy into the manly man BS. He also has nothing but respect for me and treats me like a 100% equal, which is probably even more important to model for young boys.Fie upon this quiet life!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12047096700049201873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-16175768778611488332010-08-29T14:31:15.173-07:002010-08-29T14:31:15.173-07:00What is interesting to me is the dynamic between g...What is interesting to me is the dynamic between geographical distance and emotional closeness. Even when I lived 2500 miles from my nearest sib, all of us were emotionally close. But I frequently meet people who can't imagine a close family that doesn't have Sunday dinner together every week.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09716705206734059708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17974015.post-27809585588343808612010-08-29T07:04:16.184-07:002010-08-29T07:04:16.184-07:00What I hope for, and I admit it may only be tangen...What I hope for, and I admit it may only be tangentially related to your post, would also be the result of a greater involvement of fathers in the child-rearing process: a world where young men have role models that treat women with equality, aren't raised to be stoic, isolated ("manly") men, and learn a different rubrick for measuring success than the money-and-power one so many have been raised with in the past. We can only hope.Vellumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14141550387013181309noreply@blogger.com